Serious minded and caring, values are just so important to the INFJ whose word is not just a bond but tied in with who they are intrinsically as people. Integrity is the watchword and they will be excellent listeners, patient, supportive and with a strong desire to ‘do the right thing.’ Their perception and sense of perspective means that others will ‘open up’ and they will be seen as the catalyst for making things better. Although quite gentle, softly spoken and preferring to be out of the limelight, the INFJ will work long and hard behind the scenes to maintain harmony but they are also intensely independent - both of thought and spirit - and will be outspoken in their defence of human values, the downtrodden, the oppressed.
The INFJ is honest and trustworthy, exuding integrity and sensitivity, and have a single-mindedness which will see them plan, organise and work tirelessly to achieve their goals. In this lofty pursuit they may be difficult to deflect from their chosen course of action, not as with the ESTJ from a desire to ‘get it done,’ but from the standpoint of ‘it’ being a worthwhile cause and having been arrived at by tortuous deliberation, therefore it must be right and the INFJ will ALWAYS do what is right.
As their focus is so much on ‘the bigger picture,’ and their primary drivers their values and the desire to ‘do good,’ sometimes the INFJ will find that reality or factual details get in the way of their lofty ideals, cunnings schemes and dreams of a better tomorrow. ‘Facts’ which do not support their ideas or which get in the way of the grand scheme may be ignored in their aspirational desire to reach Nirvana.
Earnest and responsible the INFJ may be so committed to the cause that other issues take a poor second place. The introvert side means much internal processing and reflection but once the course of action has been agreed others, who perhaps perceived a quiet inactive individual, may be surprised by just how decisive, energetic and single-minded the INFJ is! The responsible, serious nature of the INFJ also means that they may have to learn to ‘lighten up’ as devotion can take its toll in missing out on the more pleasurable, humorous and less intense moments life occasionally throws up.
INFJs can make inspiring leaders, (as followers will believe in them and want to ‘sign up’), and have a devotion to the cause that borders on evangelical and certainly those following will have a crystal clear vision of how it could be.
Like the INTJ, the INFJ has the ability to understand complex processes and systems but the INFJ will use these primarily to understand people, and make things happen for people. Even though they are likely to come across to others as quite shy, and certainly quiet, INFJs have a keen interest in others and will work hard and behind-the-scenes to achieve their goals. Never over-exuberant or gushing, trust would take quite some time to build with INFJs, as they do not readily share their emotions with other people.
An INFJ's values have been honed over some time, deep in their own heads, and they may not be happy to share these. This can make it difficult to get close and may mean that other people see them as a bit strange or quirky. The INFJ would not see the need to alter this view and will generally work quietly until a value is transgressed. The problem is that INFJs are so complex, individualistic and un-forthcoming, that the other person may not realise that some value or deeply held belief has been transgressed and be quite surprised how sharply the INFJ can react and how outspoken, assertive and stubborn they can suddenly and uncharacteristically become.
This is because the INFJ is sensitive, and in both directions, outwardly to the needs of others and inwardly, if someone does or says something which offends their inner views. The views of the INFJ are very personal, built up over a long time and so anything which may be perceived as shaking these foundations would be dealt with in an unusually direct way. The general way of communicating for the INFJ is by using allusions, pictures, symbols and analogies. The INFJ likes complexity and theorising, providing the subject-matter is not themselves. They value respect, both for themselves and for others, and will only be really forthcoming when hurt or when talking through some complex issue.
Beneath the quiet exterior, INFJs hold deep convictions about the more complex issues of life. Those who are activists, (many INFJs will adopt such roles), are there for the cause, not for personal glory or even political power. INFJs are champions of the oppressed and downtrodden. They often are found in the wake of an emergency, rescuing those who are in acute distress and the concept of 'poetic justice' is appealing to the INFJ.
Acutely suspicious about others' motives, INFJs are not easily led. These are the people that you can rarely fool any of the time. Though affable and sympathetic to most, INFJs are selective about their friends. Such a friendship is an important bond that is not to be taken lightly.
Confidants are chosen carefully, and getting genuinely close to an INFJ would take some time - if ever. The INFJ's thinking is introverted, turned toward the subject which can give the impression of aloofness or detachment. However this is often when the INFJ is hard at work in the internal world. INFJs, like their fellow intuitives, may be so absorbed in intuitive perceiving that they become oblivious to physical reality.
Strongly humanitarian in outlook, INFJs tend to be idealists, and because of their ‘J’ preference for closure and completion, they are generally ‘doers’ as well as dreamers. This rare combination of vision and practicality often results in INFJs taking a disproportionate amount of responsibility in the various causes to which so many of them seem to be drawn.
INFJs are deeply concerned about their relations with individuals as well as the state of humanity at large. They are, in fact, sometimes mistaken for extroverts because they appear so outgoing and are so genuinely interested in people - a product of the Feeling function they most readily show to the world.
On the contrary, INFJs are true introverts, who can only be emotionally intimate and fulfilled with a chosen few from among their long-term friends, family, or obvious ‘soul mates.’ While instinctively courting the personal and organisational demands continually made upon them by others, at intervals INFJs will suddenly withdraw into themselves, sometimes shutting out even their intimates.
This apparent paradox is a necessary escape valve for them, providing both time to rebuild their depleted resources and a filter to prevent the emotional overload to which they are so susceptible as inherent ‘givers.’ As a pattern of behaviour, it is perhaps the most confusing aspect of the enigmatic INFJ character to outsiders, and hence the most often misunderstood, particularly by those who have little experience with this rare character type.
In a team situation, the INFJ is the radical innovator, coming up with interesting theoretical ideas and good at ensuring the team covers all the bases. Although introverted, the INFJ can bring out very strong opinions, honed over much mulling around inside the head, and may surprise others by how much is 'in there.'
Traits
Empathy and Compassion: INFJs are known for their deep empathy and understanding of others' emotions. They are often compassionate listeners and can offer support and comfort.
Insightful and Intuitive: INFJs have a natural ability to see patterns and possibilities, making them insightful individuals. Their intuition allows them to anticipate outcomes and understand underlying dynamics.
Idealism and Vision: INFJs often have a strong sense of idealism and a vision for a better future. They are driven by a desire to contribute to positive change in the world.
Diplomacy and Conflict Resolution: INFJs are skilled at navigating conflicts and finding resolutions. They value harmony and can mediate effectively in interpersonal or group situations.
Creative Expression: Many INFJs have a creative and artistic side. They may express themselves through writing, art, music, or other forms of creative outlets.
Deep Connections in Relationships: INFJs value meaningful connections and seek deep, authentic relationships. They are loyal and committed to those they care about.
Altruism and Service-Oriented: Similar to ENFJs, INFJs are often drawn to careers that involve helping others. They have a strong sense of social responsibility and may pursue roles that allow them to contribute to the well-being of individuals or communities.
Strategic Thinking: INFJs can think strategically and are often able to see the big picture. They may have a long-term vision and work toward goals that align with their values.
Introspection and Self-Awareness: INFJs are reflective individuals who spend time contemplating their thoughts and feelings. This introspection contributes to their self-awareness and personal growth.
Inspiring Leadership: While they may not always seek leadership positions, INFJs can inspire and motivate others through their authenticity, vision, and ability to connect on a deep emotional level.
While these strengths are commonly associated with INFJs, individuals within this personality type can vary in their expressions of these traits. Additionally, being aware of potential challenges, such as a tendency to be perfectionistic or experience stress in highly demanding environments, can contribute to personal growth and development.
Best Match: ENTP
Second Best Match: INFJ, ENFJ, ESTP, ISTP
Third Best Match: ENTJ, ESFP, ESFJ